You’ve made the decision to create an adoption plan for your unborn child. At first, many birth mothers feel overwhelmed by the adoption process. It’s filled with important decisions, internal reflection, and emotional moments. Every single person’s journey looks different, and there is no one-size-fits-all solution. As you sift through your options, know that you don’t have to make these decisions alone. Choose a care team who can answer your questions and advocate for you throughout the process. As you start to make an adoption plan, consider these things:
Reflect On Your Childhood
When you have a little life growing inside of you, it’s normal to think about your own childhood. This is a time many birth mothers reflect on those positive and painful experiences. Although it can be difficult to reminisce about your own childhood, it can often provide clarity for your adoption plan. Some birth mothers grew up in a rural area, and they would prefer their unborn child to be raised in a similar environment. Other birth mothers may have grown up as a single child, yet they want their own unborn child to have siblings. Every single person’s story looks different. As you look back, you might learn what it is you want to include in your child’s adoption plan.
It can be difficult to make decisions about your adoption plan. Fortunately, you don’t have to make any decisions alone. The social workers at New Beginnings counsel every birth mother during their pregnancy. It can be helpful to talk through your thoughts and feelings with a professional. They can also help you identify some of your emotions, and encourage you throughout the process. Birth mothers are incredibly brave, and they deserve every ounce of support. The adoption process can feel like a roller coaster at times, and counseling is highly recommended for every birth mom.
Listen To Your Intuition
As you start the process, you might have strong feelings about certain decisions. It’s important to listen to your intuition. Many women have a strong “gut-feeling” when they are interviewing prospective adoptive parents. Some women immediately connect with a family, and they know it’s the right fit. Others might go through more interviews before they find the right family for their unborn child. Every person’s journey is different. Try to stay in tune with your emotions, and trust your intuition throughout each decision.
Trust The Process
This is easier said than done. There are a lot of emotions involved with making an adoption plan. It’s normal to experience different highs and lows throughout the process. If you ever feel overwhelmed, reach out to your counselor or a trusted friend. It’s important to acknowledge your emotions during this time. At the end of the day, you are choosing a stable life for your child, and that is a beautiful thing! Birth mothers are incredibly selfless, and we are so thankful to be a part of your journey.
If you have questions about how to make an adoption plan, reach out to one of our care team members via text at 662-401-5823. Our team would be honored to walk with you through this journey.