An unexpected pregnancy can be overwhelming, and it’s normal to feel anxious about what the future will look like. If you weren’t planning to raise a child in this season of your life, you might feel stressed and unsure about what to do. Many women choose to make an adoption plan for the preborn child, so they can both have a new beginning. We’re breaking down the key points of the adoption process for you below.

Make a List of Questions

It’s normal to have a lot of questions about making an adoption plan. Everyone has unique circumstances, and we know this journey looks different for each birth mother.  Start by reflecting on your situation, reasons for considering adoption, and what you think the process might look like. Once you have some questions ready, reach out to our adoption care team, and we’ll walk you through the answers to your specific situation. We can also connect you with other birth mothers who share similarities with your story. 

Seek Support

While this is ultimately your decision, it can be highly beneficial to have support around you. This isn’t an easy path to walk, but many birth mothers feel it is the path that will bring them the most peace. Reach out to supportive friends, family members, or professionals, such as counselors or a trusted therapist. Ask your adoption agency if there are any support groups in your area. It’s important to talk to others who understand exactly what you are going through. A strong support system can help you navigate the highs and lows of this emotional journey.

Understand Open vs. Closed Adoptions

An adoption agency can guide you through the adoption process and offer support as you make your decisions.  There are some specific decisions the birth mother has to make, and one of them is deciding if you want an open, semi-open, or closed adoption. Open adoptions involve ongoing contact with the adoptive family, while closed adoptions have limited or no contact after the adoption is finalized. Research different types of adoptions (open, semi-open, closed), and reach out to your adoption agency for more information about the guidelines in your state.

Choose an Adoptive Family

If you choose an open or semi-open adoption, you may have the opportunity to select the adoptive family. Think about values, lifestyle, location, and other factors you might want to consider when choosing an adoptive family. You’ll be able to interview potential families. Some birth mothers feel confident about a family right away, and others take more time to sift through all of the candidates.

Create a Birth Plan

Next, create a birth plan that aligns with your values. If you’re not sure what you want this to look like, your adoption agency can be a helpful resource in this area. This plan outlines your preferences for the birth experience, hospital stay, and any contact you want with the baby during this time. Every birth mother is different, and it’s important to make a plan that brings you peace and confidence.

Closure and Transition

If you’ve chosen an open or semi-open adoption, clarify the details of post-adoption contact, including communication frequency, methods, and boundaries. As the adoption process comes to an end, focus on finding closure and transitioning into your new reality. You might feel a wide range of emotions in the months after the adoption has been finalized. It’s important to find ways to cope with your emotions and adjust to the changes. Seek ongoing emotional support from therapists, support groups, or counselors as you navigate the emotions associated with the adoption process. 

Remember that every adoption journey is unique, and it’s important to have the right support system around you. If you’d like to learn more about making an adoption plan, reach out to our care team, and we’ll answer your questions and be there for you every step of the way.