Every birth mother who begins the process of creating their adoption plan faces the challenge of finding the right adoptive home. After all, there are many options out there to choose from, but it’s important to remember that it’s natural to feel overwhelmed. After all, you want your child to grow up in the safe and loving home you envision for them.
Here are some things we recommend you keep in mind as you search for a stable adoptive home.
Think About What is Most Important to You
What kind of home do you want your child to grow up in? Think about what is most important to you in a family including your values, the type of lifestyle, location, family size, and parenting style you want your child to have. It’s a lot to consider, but thinking about these things can help you narrow down your options for your child’s home. You may want to consider thinking about the kind of adoption you want as well. Birth mothers have the right to choose between an open, semi, or closed adoption. Not every family will have the same preference as you when it comes to the adoption type, but determining the direction of your adoption can help you narrow your search down further.
Have the Right Support
You don’t have to make these decisions alone. Consider talking to trusted professionals from an adoption agency. We’ve helped many birth mothers who have been in your position, and we can provide you with the same guidance and support as you look for a stable adoptive home. You may also want to think about reaching out to other birth parents as well if you’re comfortable with it. Chances are, they may have experienced the same thoughts or feelings you are facing right now and could offer some insightful advice that may be helpful.
Speak to Adoptive Families
A lot of times it can be difficult to tell what a family is like from their profile. Consider reaching out to a family directly or have an agency professional do it. You can choose from our list of awaiting families. Try to speak with at least a couple of families and meet them in person if you can. It will help you understand the available options and ensure you choose the right home. When you speak with a family, don’t be afraid to ask any questions you may have and clearly communicate what’s important to you. There is no obligation to choose a specific family if you meet with them.
It can be difficult to wonder if the right stable adoptive home is out there for your child. Take your time, and choose what you believe is best for you and your unborn child. Remember, there is no deadline in choosing an adoptive home, and it’s a right you have as a birth mother. If you don’t feel comfortable choosing an adoptive home, reach out to one of our care team members here.