For whatever reasons you are visiting with us today, we want to offer you hope and encouragement above all things! If you are asking yourself what is the best decision for you and your baby, we want you to know that you have options – we want to help! We want you to call and ask questions, whether you make an adoption plan in the end or choose to parent your child. We have counselors waiting and are ready to talk with you about your options. Please give us a call!
We understand that adoption may not always be the best option for every woman. However, adoption may be the right option for you. Every birthmother has her own reasons for choosing adoption, whether it be for financial reasons, rape, school, lack of support, or just not ready to assume the responsibility of parenting. We want to help you weigh your options.
When you make an adoption plan, you will have:
Adoption is choosing a family for a child when you are not at a place in your life to provide stability or a two-parent family.
Unlike adoptions in past generations, you will have the option of choosing and meeting the adoptive couple. Each couple is thoroughly screened so that we can assure you that your baby will be placed in a loving, secure Christian home. You can write your own adoption story. It can look however you want it to.
You will have the option to set the level of contact you want and feel comfortable having with your child. We offer:
Adoption is not foster care. Foster care is temporary. Adoption is permanent and stable.
Parenting a child is a commitment to provide a stable, loving and permanent home for a child. If you don’t believe you are able to provide that at this point in your life for whatever reason, adoption is a good option, and it may be the best option for you.
While single parenting is not easy, it may be the right choice for you. We applaud you for choosing “life” for your child, and it is important for you to be able to provide a safe and stable home for your child. Single parenting can be very stressful and there are some things that you may want to consider.
Birthfathers have certain and specific rights, but they may be limited. He may or may not choose to cooperate with your plan as a single mom and it may be a good idea to talk with him about this before your child is born to learn if he will be supportive of or opposed to your plan. If he threatens to oppose your adoption plan, it may be helpful to have a third party (New Beginnings provides this service to our birthmothers) remind him that he will be financially responsible for the child if he opposes your adoption plan. As a single mom, you may also want to consider rights he may have in regard to visitation and custody.
Many single parents have completed high school and obtained a college degree. Being a single parent does not mean you cannot successfully overcome challenges you will face. However, the challenges are great and a high percentage of single mothers do not complete high school or college. How successful you will be likely depends on the extent of support you receive from your parents, the birthfather and whether or not you are willing to make the necessary sacrifices to attend school, work and parent at the same time.
Unless you have significant financial resources, “making it totally on your own” may prove to be very difficult depending on your age and level of education, as well as your employment opportunities. Your best option for housing will likely be with your parents and we encourage you to discuss your options with them.
You may make an adoption plan at any time after you take your child home.
— Statistics from “Decisions, Choices & Options” (Joi Wasill)
Almost 1.2 million unborn children are aborted each year in the United States, while at the same time, each year, in the United States, 1.2 million families are on the waiting lists of licensed adoption agencies. The Lord has provided homes for the unborn children and is certainly grieved when innocent children pay the price for our mistakes. There is an alternative to abortion that has been tested and proven effective for thousands of years. It is God’s plan and His plans are good. New Beginnings is an adoption agency that wants to help you during this difficult time.
We do not condemn those who have chosen abortion—we offer a better way and support for taking the path of “life”. We offer abortion alternatives. At the same time, we help minister to those who have chosen abortion in the past. Thank you for visiting New Beginnings and contacting us if we can help you.
Dr. Jerome Lejeune (geneticist) said, “As soon as the 23 chromosomes carried by the sperm encounter the 23 chromosomes carried by the ovum…a new human being is defined…”
— Statistics from “Decisions, Options & Choices” (Joi Wasill)
“This day I call heaven and earth as witnesses against you that I have set before you life and death, blessings and curses. Now choose life, so that you and your children may live and that you may love the Lord your God; listen to his voice and hold fast to him.”
“In 1981, I chose abortion as a way out of a crisis pregnancy. At the time, I felt trapped and like there was no other option. Every day people make choices. Often they are bad choices with dire consequences. According to statistics from Focus on the Family, 44% of all American women will have an abortion at some point in their lifetime.”
It has been said, “A woman chooses abortion like an animal caught in a trap chooses to gnaw off its leg.” Today, women across our nation will make that same decision. Most of these women will not hear about abortion alternatives.
“There is a better way and there is a way we can help. Adoption is a choice everyone can live with. Crisis pregnancy centers and homes for unwed mothers are struggling in the fight to save lives and spare women the devastation of an abortion experience.”
“People are unaware of the trauma that a woman faces after her abortion experience. Many women who choose abortion are going against their own moral code. In a survey on 260 post abortive women, over 50% of the women responded they agreed their decision to abort was “inconsistent with her prior beliefs and a betrayal of her own ideals.”
In “Forbidden Grief,”Theresa Burke writes:
“Consequently, many women experience trauma known as Post Abortion Syndrome. The inability to process the guilt, anger, and grief related to the abortion will bring symptoms such as: depression, suicidal thoughts, flashback memories, nightmares, eating disorders, etc. The truth about the painful consequences of abortion is not common knowledge in our country. Since there is so much pain, women bear the consequences in secret.
Breaking the silence about abortion and its consequences will help those facing a crisis pregnancy to choose life and live. It also will help to bring healing to those who have carried the awful secret and pain of their abortion choice. There are words of life that will bring blessing and not cursing. We can help others to choose life and live.”
Focus on the Family – Healing After Abortion by Teri Ki Reisser, M.S.,M.F.T. and Paul C. Reisser, M.D.Copyright – 2002
Forbidden Grief by Theresa Burke with David C. Reardon, 2002. Acorn Books – Springfield Illinois.
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