We understand that adoption may not always be the best option for every woman. However, adoption may be the right option for you. Every birthmother has her own reasons for choosing adoption, whether it be for financial reasons, a traumatic experience, school, lack of support, or just not being ready to assume the responsibility of parenting. We exist to help you understand and evaluate your options.
Unlike adoptions in past generations, you will have the option of choosing and meeting the adoptive couple. Each couple is thoroughly screened so that we can assure you that your baby will be placed in a loving, secure Christian home. You can write your own adoption story and it can look however you want it to look for you.
Forms of Adoption
You will have the option to set the level of contact you want and feel comfortable having with your child. We offer three forms of adoption:
It is important to remember Adoption is not foster care. Foster care is temporary. Adoption is permanent and stable. Parenting a child is a commitment to provide a stable, loving and permanent home for a child. If you don’t believe you are able to provide that at this point in your life for whatever reason, adoption may be the best option for you. Adoption is NOT abandonment. It is choosing a family for a child when you are not at a place in your life to provide stability or a two-parent family.
When you make an adoption plan, you will have:
The right to be involved in all phases of the adoption plan.
The right to choose and meet the adoptive family that is perfect for your child.
The right to be treated with dignity and respect.
The right to have your questions answered honestly.
The right to continue to receive support and counseling after making an adoption plan.
While single parenting is not easy, it may be the right choice for you. We applaud you for choosing “life” for your child, and it is important for you to be able to provide a safe and stable home for your child.
Will the birthfather be supportive of my decision to be a single parent?
What about finishing high school and going on to college?
Where will I live after my baby is born?
What if I choose to parent and then decide I am not able to deal with the stress and responsibility?
Things to think about
Single parenting can be very stressful and there are things that you may want to consider. Women, like you, have asked us questions like these:
Things to consider:
Only 40% of teen mothers will graduate from high school
Rick to the children
Growing up without a father
90% of homeless and runaway children come from fatherless homes
Less than 8% of teen dads marry their child’s mom
Insufficient health care
50% of children raised by teen mothers are referred to social service agencies
71% of pregnant teens come from a fatherless home
Abuse and neglect
82% of male inmates in U.S. prisons come from a fatherless home
— Statistics from “Decisions, Choices & Options” (Joi Wasill)
Almost 1.2 million unborn children are aborted each year in the United States, while at the same time, each year, in the United States, 1.2 million families are on the waiting lists of licensed adoption agencies. The Lord has provided homes for the unborn children and is certainly grieved when innocent children pay the price for our mistakes. There is an alternative to abortion that has been tested and proven effective for thousands of years. It is God’s plan and His plans are good. New Beginnings is an adoption agency that wants to help you during this difficult time.
We do not condemn those who have chosen abortion—we offer a better way and support for taking the path of “life”. We offer abortion alternatives. At the same time, we help minister to those who have chosen abortion in the past. Thank you for visiting New Beginnings, we hope to have the opportunity to help you through this challenging time in your life.
Fetal Development Facts
Facts you should know before abortion:
When is a human a human?
Brainwaves can be detected at 40-45 days after conception.
All the major body parts and organs are present at the end of 8 weeks.
When is a human a human?
Dr. Jerome Lejeune (geneticist) said, “As soon as the 23 chromosomes carried by the sperm encounter the 23 chromosomes carried by the ovum…a new human being is defined…”
— Statistics from “Decisions, Options & Choices” (Joi Wasill)
Consequences of Abortion
“In 1981, I chose abortion as a way out of a crisis pregnancy. At the time, I felt trapped and like there was no other option. Every day people make choices. Often they are bad choices with dire consequences. According to statistics from Focus on the Family, 44% of all American women will have an abortion at some point in their lifetime.”
It has been said, “A woman chooses abortion like an animal caught in a trap chooses to gnaw off its leg.” Today, women across our nation will make that same decision. Most of these women will not hear about abortion alternatives.
“There is a better way and there is a way we can help. Adoption is a choice everyone can live with. Crisis pregnancy centers and homes for unwed mothers are struggling in the fight to save lives and spare women the devastation of an abortion experience.”
“People are unaware of the trauma that a woman faces after her abortion experience. Many women who choose abortion are going against their own moral code. In a survey on 260 post abortive women, over 50% of the women responded they agreed their decision to abort was “inconsistent with her prior beliefs and a betrayal of her own ideals.”
Post Abortion Syndrome
“Consequently, many women experience trauma known as Post Abortion Syndrome. The inability to process the guilt, anger, and grief related to the abortion will bring symptoms such as: depression, suicidal thoughts, flashback memories, nightmares, eating disorders, etc. The truth about the painful consequences of abortion is not common knowledge in our country. Since there is so much pain, women bear the consequences in secret.
Breaking the silence about abortion and its consequences will help those facing a crisis pregnancy to choose life and live. It also will help to bring healing to those who have carried the awful secret and pain of their abortion choice. There are words of life that will bring blessing and not cursing. We can help others to choose life and live.”
Forbidden Grief by Theresa Burke with David C. Reardon, 2002. Acorn Books – Springfield Illinois.