After weighing the best options for you and your unborn child, you decide to make an adoption plan. So, how do you talk to your family about this decision? These conversations can be hard, but they can also be a helpful step in processing your journey. Here are four things you should consider when you tell your family about your decision to make an adoption plan:
Talk To A Trusted Friend Or Counselor First
If you’re nervous about sharing this information with friends and family, consider talking with a trusted friend or counselor about your concerns. Share what you think might be the most challenging part about the conversation. As you voice your concerns, it will give you a chance to process things before you have the big conversation. It’s important to go into this conversation knowing that you have outside support.
Make A Plan
Does your family get together every week for dinner? Is there a certain time of the week that would be best to share this information? Some birth mothers find it helpful to make a plan about when and how they will tell family members. This allows you to feel prepared going into the conversation. Choose a date that you want to get together, and tell your family that you have something important to share with them. This will help them know that you’d like to have time carved out to sit down and talk together. If you are worried about how a certain family member may respond, consider bringing a supportive friend with you.
Give Them Time & Space To Process
Some family members might respond differently than you expect to this information. While you have taken time to consider what is best for you and your unborn child, this news might be surprising to some people. As you enter these conversations, remember your reasons for choosing to make an adoption plan. Communicate these reasons to your family. Let them know that you have thoroughly researched this avenue. Some family members might be supportive about your decision while others might have questions. It’s ok to give family members time and space to process this information.
Surround Yourself With A Supportive Community
Even if a family member or friend doesn’t agree with you, it doesn’t mean that you are making a wrong decision. These decisions are personal, and it’s important to surround yourself with people who will listen to you and support you through this process. If a family member does disagree with you, be sure to let them know that you have given this decision a lot of careful thought. At the end of the day, you have to make the best decision possible for you and your unborn child. Birth mothers shouldn’t have to feel isolated in this journey, and the New Beginnings care team will walk with you through every step of the process.
If you’d like to make an adoption plan, text our care team at 662-401-5823. We’re more than happy to answer any questions you might have, and we will never pressure you to make a decision any certain way. We would love to hear your story and see how we can help support you!