“For you are fearfully and wonderfully made.” Psalm 139:14
What does one mother say to another? To my friends, I want to be an encouragement. I laugh, I cry, I am honest with them. So, let’s get real for a minute dear friend. Let’s pretend for a moment that we are sitting face to face. You’re looking at me and I’ll probably steal a glance at the life growing inside you. You may wonder if I could possibly understand what you are going through. The long nights you fought through that brought you to this moment, but it’s in this moment our friendship begins.
You, dear, are courageous! You have won the battle! You chose life! This makes me crazy excited! Excuse me while I do a happy dance in your honor! (Jeremiah 1:5) “Before I formed you in the womb, I knew you”. He knows you sister, and he knows the precious gift that you carry. Keep walking girl, I am cheering you on!
You are loved! This has my heart. “See what great love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called His children” (1 John 3:1). I pray this over you continuously. Adoption is an act of love. “It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails” (1 Corinthians 13:7-8). I ponder these truths when I think of the path you’re on. Your love has brought you here and His love will bring you through it.
So, what does a mother say to another mother? I started this letter wondering what I would say to you, but honestly, it’s you that speak to me. Your journey humbles me. It gives me courage. I am reminded of hope and the love of my Father. The child God places in my arms, and in my family’s life, will know a love that knows no bounds. First because of Christ Jesus and then because of us, you and me, mother to mother.
In Christ’s Love,
Dear Birth Mother,
I have thought long and hard about what I should say to you, and I decided to write this letter as if you were sitting right here with me. So, I would greet you with a smile and a handshake. I would ask you how you are doing while fighting back tears of joy and compassion. Then I would ask you about our journey to this point. Somewhere in our conversation I would throw in something funny to make us laugh. I would tell you, thank you for choosing to talk to me about your life. I would then ask if I could pray with you. After that I would tell you about my wife and I, our kids, and our adoption journey. Before Whitney and I even got married, we decided that we would have four kids and adopt, so you could say that God has been preparing us for adopting for a while now. (Jeremiah 29: 11) “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not harm you, plans to give hope and a future”. So, God has been preparing you and us for this without us even knowing. God knew that we would be at this point in our lives, and he has plans for us and for the child inside of you. Whitney and I, and our kids, have prayed over you and your child for a while now. I can’t relate to you in the same way that my wife can, but I can talk to you from a father’s point of view. Thank you for choosing life for your child and for giving us the opportunity to raise this child as our own. (Psalm 139:13-14) “For you created me in my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made”. I know, through watching Whitney, that you have worked hard to grow this child, and I commend you for your hard work. As a father, I look forward to having another child to love on and to hold close, to comfort, and to teach. I look forward to the laughter that we will share and the tears that we will shed together. I look forward to sharing that “Your birth mother worked so hard to create you”. As a father, I will strive to raise this child to know his Heavenly Father and to know that he was fearfully and wonderfully made. I would say “thank you for taking the time to talk with me, and I pray that God will be with you and guide you and bless you on your journey.
Daniel and I met at his high school graduation. He asked me on a date that day. I was a junior at the time. A funny short story – when I told my mom that Daniel as me out, her exact words were “you’re going to marry him”. She was right! The very next year, Daniel asked me to marry him at my graduation. Eight months later we got married and have been “living on love and buying on time” (Randy Travis) ever since.
We began life together and started a family at a young age. For almost twelve years now, we have been faithfully devoted to our marriage. We have four amazing, beautiful children: Olivia (age 10), Dan Weston (age 8), Elizabeth (age 6), and Josie (age 1 – 1/2). Our life together hasn’t all been a love song, however. The better part of our first ten years of marriage Daniel was in college, and he also worked full time. He started his college carrier when I was pregnant with our first baby, Olivia. He started his education with a drafting degree and finished with a bachelor’s degree in Engineering. When Daniel finished school, we were pregnant with our fourth child and a month away from celebrating our tenth anniversary. Each year together has come with new challenges and opportunities, but we have learned that each one is a stepping stone down the path that God has created for us.
Whitney’s desire to serve the Lord, her strong family values, and her loving spirit are the reasons that I fell in love with her. I have always admired her boldness as a Christian, a wife, and a mother. She has a “mother hen” quality about her. She puts great value on her entire family and is always looking out for everyone in it. Whitney pours her heart and soul in to our kids. She is an encourager in our times of need. She completes me and makes me whole.
Daniel is the most selfless person I know. His humble and kind character is the reason that I fell in love with him. I admire his extreme intelligence and diligent work ethic. He loves to learn and do new things. He is a prankster, and he loves to make people laugh and scream so he can laugh. He cherishes me and our children, but most of all, he loves the Lord and seeks to serve him in every aspect of his life.
We recently bought our dream home. Our house has a warmth to it, with cypress siding and doghouse windows. It sits in the middle of fourteen acres of woods. The fall season is the best here because you can sit on the front patio in the cool of the morning with a cup of coffee and breathe in the fresh smell of pines. We spend a lot of time outside enjoying the beauty and peacefulness that surrounds us here.
We live in the country, but we are actually only a few minutes away from our little community. We have a community pool that touches the edge of our land, so we spend a lot of time at the pool in the summer. We love our small town! They have annual festival’s. For example, they just had their fall festival which includes: horseback rides, wagon rides, and auctions. All the proceeds from this goes towards funds for an outreach ministry for children. People come from all over to support this incredible ministry. We love it here! The people here are amazing.
We both come from large families, so your child will be joining a family with lots of cousins, aunts, uncles, grandmas, grandpas, great grandmas, and great grandpas. As a family, we love spending time together. This summer we spent Labor Day weekend playing games where we separated in to teams and played games like: cornhole, card, bat mitten, and a relay race (FYI my team won). We take the occasional vacation to the beach with both sides of our family.
Larger holiday traditions come with a larger family. We are blessed to live close enough that we are able to spend every holiday with our extended families. We make cookies with Nana (Daniel’s mom) every December 23. On Christmas Eve we go to both of our grandmother’s houses. I can’t go a Christmas Eve without having some of my grandmother’s Christmas punch and listening to one of the cousins read the Christmas Story. The gifts swallow the tree and the floor at Daniel’s grandmother’s house. The kids get so excited! Christmas morning, we all crave my mother’s sour dough cinnamon rolls. Daniel and I spend most of the day playing on the floor with our kids.
OUR ADOPTION JOURNEY
Our adoption journey started in March of 2017. When the Lord called us to adoption, we were so excited! We have always wanted a big family. Adoption was always a dream that we had for our family. However, we got caught up in our own plan, a “ONE DAY” plan. “One Day” when the time is right we’ll adopt or “One Day” when we have this amount of money “Saved”, then we’ll adopt. At the time it seemed reasonable to hold off on adopting right away. After all, our youngest was not even one year old yet. We started to notice after several months had gone by that something wasn’t right. We knew that we were not on the path that God had laid out for us. We realized that the Lord never said to us “I want you to adopt when you feel like it”, he said “I want you to ADOPT NOW”. Oh man! Once we opened up that door and took the first step toward our adoption journey, God opened the flood gates! It has been an amazing and humbling experience. It has been overwhelming at times, but we know we are on the right path. We know we plenty of room and love in our hearts for another child. It’s a Big Big house with lots and lots of room!
A little more about us….
|ADOPTIVE FATHER||ADOPTIVE MOTHER|
|Occupation||Civil Engineer||Stay at Home Mom|
|Education||Associates & Bachelor’s||High School / Some College|
|Favorite Hobby||Building things||Photography|
|Favorite Food||Chicken Spaghetti||Roast, mashed potatoes, and biscuits|
|Favorite Dessert||Lemon Pie||Anything Chocolate|
|Favorite Movie||Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles||Beauty and The Beast|
|Favorite TV Show||Psych||Gilmore Girls|
|Favorite Music Artist/Group||Steven Curtis Chapman||Third Day|
|Favorite Vacation Spot||Mountains||Destin, Florida|