Dear Birthmother,

First of all we want to say THANK YOU! Thank you for choosing life for your baby. In a world where there are so many options, you have made the most selfless choice by putting your baby’s needs before any of your own desires. As Christians, we understand the sanctity of life and the sacrifice you are making by even contemplating adoption. And also, Thank You for your interest in our family. Being unable to have biological children, it is women like you that will make our dreams of being parents come true.  

Our promise to you, if you choose to place your baby with us, is to always love your baby unconditionally, to make sure he or she grows up in a home where they are immensely loved, and to make sure they always know how brave and selfless their first mom is. Having been foster parents, we understand how important maintaining biological ties are, but we also can understand the amount of pain this could cause you, first momma. Because of this, we are committed to as open of an adoption as you are comfortable with and is safe for both you and baby. Regardless of your needs when it comes to openness, your baby will grow up hearing how wonderful and brave his/her first mom is, and how much he/she was loved by you. They will hear about how wonderful you thought they were and how you wanted even more people to be able to love them, so you found us. And together, we formed a really big family. Our promise to you also includes to love you for this incredible gift no one else could give us. Our promise to you means we promise to never stop praying for and loving you. You were prayed for and loved before you even read this letter.  

Our promise to your baby, if you place him/her with us, is to provide unconditional love and support, to raise them to love the Lord, to provide them with the best education, to lead and guide them, to help them overcome obstacles and to make countless memories. We know we won’t be and can’t be perfect parents. There is no such thing. But we do promise and know we will be the best parents that we can be and strive every day to be better for you both.   

I feel like we have probably talked your ear off, but that’s nothing unusual for us. I do want to thank you for taking time to read our letter and getting to know some about us. We hope you continue reading and learn more about what we have to offer. There’s so much more we want to tell you than we can even begin to say here, and so many things we would love to know about you. While you go through this process of making the best decision for you and your baby’s future, please know, you both are in our thoughts and prayers. We pray that you will find the perfect family to love on you and your baby, whoever they are and wherever they may be.  

Again, thank you for taking your time to get to know a small part of us.  

Sincerely, 

Jake & Ashton 

 

ABOUT US 

We are Jake and Ashton, two married best-friends that cannot wait to be parents! We met in 2011 at a friend’s house and though we were instantly smitten on each other, we didn’t start dating until a year later. After being together 2 weeks, Jake told Ashton he had a pituitary condition that wouldn’t let him father children. He said he knew Ashton wanted to be a mom really bad and if they needed to “just be friends” because he couldn’t have kids he understood. Ashton had always wanted to adopt anyway and asked how Jake felt about that. We agreed that adoption was what we were meant to do. About a year later we got married! We waited several years before we found we were really ready to provide a life for a child, and at that point, we became foster parents. We fostered 4 children and helped them go back to their biological families and had a great relationship with them, but we felt like something was missing. We wanted to adopt and have a little one with us as part of our family forever.  

When we say we are best friends, we really mean it! We do everything together! We have so many common interests. We both love music, being outside, fishing, traveling, sports, and most of all, we both love Jesus. Whenever we are together, we spend a lot of time just laughing. There is never a dull moment with us!  

Some of Ashton’s favorite things about Jake are how kind he is, how he can make anyone laugh, and how people just flock to him. I’ve really never met anyone that didn’t like Jake. A big word to describe Jake would be genuine. He genuinely cares about everyone. If he asks how your day is, he really wants to know and will really listen. I also see how he loves me and just know he will love a child even more! I’ve seen him with the kids in our family and they just love him and I can’t wait to see him being a Daddy! 

Jake thinks Ashton is the best person he’s ever known. She’s the most selfless, loving, caring, thoughtful person of all time. Not only that, but she’s also absolutely gorgeous. She is my go to for everything and my best friend. I am constantly amazed by how smart she is, like, really smart. She understands what a Godly marriage is, and we work together on everything. She will be the best momma, I have zero doubt! I’ve seen her with many kids, in our family and also kids that we’ve fostered, and am amazed at how naturally it comes to her. My favorite thing is how excited she gets at the prospect of being a mom, and all the plans she already has for our kids!  

 

OUR HOME/COMMUNITY   

We live in a 3 bed, 2 bath brick home located at the end of the cove. We have a half-acre lot which provides a HUGE back yard! It’s the perfect backyard to add a swing set or trampoline to, right next to our pool! Our favorite thing that people say about our home is how warm and comfortable it is. We strive to make it a place where you can just come in and relax! We live in THE CUTEST area! We have a town square, tons of “mom and pop” shops, and it’s still just a short drive to go to the zoo or museum! Our town square has Halloween costume contest, apple cider contest, farmers markets and all sorts of little get togethers “on the square”. We moved here with the idea of raising a family in mind. From the diversity to the grade A schools to 4 huge parks and its safety, we just think it’s the perfect place to raise a little one! 

 

FAMILY ACTIVITES/TRADITIONS  

Ashton comes from a really large, really close family. Every holiday is a big get together with lots of people! Lots of kids too. Jake has a smaller family, but its just as close. Both sides of our family get together at our house for Memorial Day, 4th of July, and Labor Day to grill out and swim! Ashton loves to host get-togethers and cook for everyone. Jake is really good at grilling and smoking ribs and BBQ. Besides getting together on the holidays, Ashton and Jake have come up with their own traditions too. For example, every Friday after Thanksgiving, we put up the Christmas tree while listening to Christmas music. Ashton bakes cookies and at the end of the night, after the whole house is decorated, we sit down and eat cookies and watch Christmas movies. Christmas is Jakes favorite holiday. Every weekend in October we do special Halloween activities; pumpkin carving, corn mazes, making smores, all leading up to Halloween night when Ashton cooks chili just like her Mamaw did when she was little before going out with Jake’s nieces. You could say Disney is another family tradition of ours. We love Walt Disney! The movies and Walt Disney World! Ashton’s grandma started a tradition of a huge family vacation to Disney World when Ashton was 4. From then on her Grandma made it a tradition to take each grandchild to Disney for their first time after their 5th birthday. Now, Ashton and Jake go every other year and we just dream of introducing a little one to the magic of Disney! 

 

OUR ADOPTION JOURNEY  

We really feel that we are called to adopt. When Ashton was young, her best friend was adopted, and it was then she learned what adoption was. She grew up saying she wanted to adopt one day. Jake has a pituitary condition that won’t allow him to have biological children. After they had been dating for 2 weeks, Jake told Ashton about his condition. He figured Ashton would break up with him because he knew she wanted children. To his surprise, she asked if he was okay with adoption because she always wanted to adopt anyway! God had already prepared them and their hearts for adoption. After being foster parents and fostering some children, we knew we really wanted to move forward with adoption.  

A little more about us…. 

 

  ADOPTIVE FATHER  ADOPTIVE MOTHER 
Occupation  Utility/Parts Clerk in Diesel mechanic shop  RN specializing in organ transplants 
Education  Some college  Associates Degree, Bachelors in May 2022 
Favorite Hobby  Hunting, fishing, collecting baseball cards and records  Swimming, working in flower beds, fishing, reading 
Favorite Food  Ashton’s cooking  Chips and queso!  
Favorite Dessert  Pound cake  Brownies and Ice cream! 
Favorite Holiday  Christmas  4th of July or Halloween! 
Favorite Movie  Jurassic Park  Hocus Pocus  
Favorite TV Show  The Office  American Horror Story 
Favorite Music Artist/Group  Metallica  Red Hot Chili Peppers 
Favorite Vacation Spot  Anywhere with Ashton  Disney!