The adoption process looks different for every person, and it’s hard to know exactly what to expect as a birth mother. Most birth mothers haven’t been through the adoption process before, and they might not know anyone else who has either. While a birth mother won’t know exactly what her journey will look like beforehand, here are a few things to know about the adoption process:
The Birth Mother Can Make Important Decisions
Many birth mothers don’t realize that they are in the driver’s seat. Birth mothers have the first opportunity to make important decisions. They can select the birth family, choose if they would like an open, closed, or semi-open adoption, and make certain boundaries throughout the adoption process. While some birth mothers don’t want to be involved in these decisions, it’s important to know there are options if a birth mother would like to pursue them.
Interviewing Potential Adoptive Families
The birth mother has the option to choose which adoptive family she feels most comfortable with to raise her unborn child. Some women feel very empowered by this decision, and it helps them to feel at ease with the rest of the process. It can be comforting to know the exact family that this child will grow up with. A birth mother has the opportunity to learn about a potential family’s interests and what type of parents they will be. Similar to all of these decisions, a birth mother does not have to choose a family. Our care team is happy to choose one of our approved families if a birth mother would rather not make that decision.
Prepare For Changes
There are a lot of changes happening in the life of a birth mother. Her body is changing, and her life looks different than it did before pregnancy. This can be a lot to adjust to. A birth mother might have more morning sickness than she expected or she can feel more emotional than usual. Some birth mothers might feel one way about her adoption plan and then want to make a change about open vs closed adoption a few days later. She won’t be able to see every change on the road ahead, but she will have support of a care team to talk through these changes as they happen.
Birth Mothers Deserve Respect
If you are working with an agency that does not properly respect you or advocate for you, it might be time to find a different care team. Birth mothers are some of the most selfless and brave people that we have ever met. Each birth mother deserves to be treated with dignity throughout the entire adoption process.
Are you thinking about making an adoption plan? We know this isn’t an easy decision, and our care team would love to hear more about your story. Text us at 662-401-5823 to hear about your options.